When most people see the word strap on, they think about lesbian sex. Obviously, a lot of lesbian couples do use it to add some penetrating action during sex. But heterosexual couples have started to use it as well because they can be extremely fun for them too.
A strap on is simply a harness with an attachable dildo. The harness can be placed around the waist or the hips to penetrate your partner with the dildo. For a lot of couples, it allows a woman to have an artificial penis to penetrate her man thus making it possible for partners to explore gender-role boundaries. This is also highly beneficial because, as you may be aware, the prostate is located near the anus. So, stimulating the prostate can be as pleasurable as stimulating the g-spot. It will feel like an overload of sensations all around.
On the other hand, men can also wear strap ons. They may choose to do so if they suffer from erectile dysfunction or they simply want to use something else to penetrate their partner with. Then again, it could be for size reasons. For instance, if your penis is too small then you can always use a strap on as an alternative. Some men want to use them because they will have a bigger than average-sized penis. It can make for a very interesting role play if you want to act as if you are a famous porn star.
The main difference between a dildo and a strap on is the greater intimacy it can offer. Unlike a dildo, your partner is actually wearing the penis instead of simply holding it. Hence, their hands are free to do as you or they wish such as provide further stimulation, which is a great thing if you ask me. Plus, the visual image can be simply arousing!
If you are interested in exploring the possibility of using a strap in the bedroom, you should first get rid of any myths you may have about it from what you have heard before. For example, using a strap on doesn’t make a man gay. Being anally penetrated can be extremely pleasurable for a lot of men but it doesn’t mean they are gay. What makes a man gay is, well, being attracted to men.
The other common myth about strap ons is the women who use them actually want to be men. This is a very archaic concept, so you should never believe this. Some women want to use a strap on simply to make them play a bit with the defined gender roles. But others want to use them because the idea of penetrating turns them on and provides their partner with pleasure.
Before you get one, you should know there are two styles commonly sold. The jock style harness features a circle around the waist or hips with a dildo attached to the front. Use the two straps to place the strap on securely around the thighs. A lot of people prefer this style because they consider it more comfortable and the dildo feels more supported.
The other style is called a thong harness. It is a circle placed around the waist or hips with the dildo at the front. Unlike the jock style, a strap goes from the front to the back of the wearer in between their legs. As these have fewer straps, they don’t require many adjustments and some people find them more comfortable than others in this category. Oh! For some, the strap between their legs is very stimulating wink*
Regardless of which style you choose, always remember to have plenty of lubricant on hand for strap on sex. You’ll enjoy a wetter and wilder encounter plus it will make your first and every strap on experience more pleasurable.
