You have everything set up to use a strap on. Your partner puts it on then proceeds to penetrate you. Everyone is having fun and happiness arrives at the end. But you wake up the next day and the person wearing the harness is left with some bruises. While this situation is less than ideal, it is a common occurrence when using toys like these. Even if you put the underwear barrier underneath there is still a chance the marks will continue.
If this happens to you, fear not. It is normal. The thing is, not all bodies are created equal so some toys simply don’t work well with some bodies. The problem with strap on dildos is they generally dig into what they are strapped on to. Plus, the penetrating motion generated can definitely cause some bruises. If this bothers you, rest assured you can try some things to leave you unscathed.
The first thing you might want to try is a different dildo. Silicone dildos tend to be soft instead of rigid, so they could hurt less and be more comfortable in most cases. While they are a bit more expensive, you will be paying for comfort and enjoyment so it would be worth it in the end.
Another thing you can try if you don’t want to change your dildo is to support it. Silicone saddles are available and can do wonders for you. The pad shaped saddle is designed to work with the vulva and acts as a cushion or barrier between yourself and the toy. The good thing about this solution is they can be used with all toys, so you don’t have to switch if you love the one you have. Another benefit of silicone is it can be sterilized. For those who like this option, you can also try a masturbation sleeve. You will need to turn it inside out and put it right at the base of the dildo for some extra protection there. You can choose from several masturbation sleeves in the market. Some are made of silicone while others are designed in TPE. So you won’t be able to sterilize some models. Others are made out of very delicate materials so they will rip after several uses. What is the solution? Get several masturbation sleeves so you will always have one at hand when you need it the most. Oh and before I forget, you can also put these sleeves on the head of a Hitachi wand…so I’ll leave you with this idea too wink*
You can also try to get a different material for your harness. A leather harness can dig into the skin. It is a shame because leather harnesses are very pretty and a lot of people find them very sexy. But the material is so rigid you can over tighten it easily. Instead get a nylon and spandex harness to give you more control of the situation and you can wash them easily as well! I know leather is great, but we can all agree it can be a bit of pain in the ass to clean it and not the good kind of pain wink*
No matter what choice you make, always remember to do what is best for you. Keep in mind you shouldn’t be uncomfortable or be in any pain at all when you strap on!
