Strap ons can be for everyone as long as you are game to try it in the bedroom. Unlike what you may think, both men and women can wear a strap on. You can use it to penetrate your male or female partner, which in a sense means they are kind of universal.
A basic strap on has a harness with an attached dildo. The harness has an o-ring where the dildo with a flared base is placed. Strap ons come in three different styles: thong (it looks like a thong, with a strap going between the legs), jock style (like a classic jock strap, with straps around the waist and over the butt) and underwear style (it looks like a normal pair of boxers). As for the dildos, they come in a lot of shapes, sizes, materials and colors. Some appear incredibly realistic, if this is what you are into, or you can get one completely out there if you desire. If you really like the feeling of using a strap on, you can consider wearing one underneath your clothes as the soft dildos look like a flaccid penis.
If this is your first time buying a strap on, you may need a moment to really think about what you want and are looking for in a dildo. So be very patient. Don’t be afraid to do your research online and/or in person so you can find the perfect strap on for you and your partner. No matter the model or the dildo you choose, it needs to be comfortable. The material should be something you enjoy. It should also be easy to adjust to let you find the right fit for you. Keep in mind some harnesses can only be used with specific sizes of dildos, while others can be used with several ones; so make sure to know which you want to get before you get one. In some cases, it would be common courtesy to let your partner pick the dildo to make sure they will enjoy it during penetration.
For women interested in penetrating their male partners, they can look into a harness with a bullet vibrator attachment. These vibrators will stimulate your clitoris, so it can feel especially good for you too.
At first, you may feel a bit strange wearing one, but keep in mind you will get used to it after a few times. Before you actually start penetrating anyone, you can first wear one on your own for a while. You don’t have to do anything sexual, just wear your dildo around the house to get used to the sensation so you can feel as if it has always been part of your body. This will make things easier when you use it with your partner.
When the time finally comes, remember to go very slow, for your sake and your partner’s. If you want, you can make your partner masturbate your dildo or even give it a blow job. It can be really erotic. When it comes to penetration, my number one advice is to use more lube than the amount you think you will need. Remember to use water based lubes with silicone dildos, never silicone on silicone!
The thrusting motion may feel a bit weird to do if you have never done it before. My advice is not to go overboard. Instead, try some gentle thrusting. You can even ask your male partner for some advice if you like. As for positions, you want to start with something easy like the missionary or doggy style. If you will be penetrating a woman, guide the dildo with your fingers to penetrate the holes you want to enter! As always, communicate often and have fun wink*
