If you are sure you are ready to embark on the responsibility that entails being a dominant; it’s time to step up to the next level. First, you need to take a good introspective look at yourself. Take your time figuring out why you want to be a dominant, what you hope to achieve and your own personal tastes. Once you have all that down, you are ready to embark on this wonderful journey.
You need to be aware of the huge responsibility being a dominant entails. You literally will be responsible for another person so this is not something you should take lightly; it’s a big deal and you should treat it as such.
You need to be aware of the safety measures when you practice bondage techniques; including spankings, rope tying, wax play, gags, and everything else. Don’t ever try to do something you are not confident performing. Keep in mind all things physically related will have some level of danger, so you want to keep the odds in your favor. Try to prepare as much as you can before you actually do anything on someone. This means reading as much as you can, practicing and talking with experienced people if it’s possible. Remember: the key here is always being completely sure with yourself before you do incorporate someone into play.
Once you have yourself sorted out, know what you want to do and know the techniques, it’s time to find a willing partner. You need to find a submissive that is on the same page as you; this means someone who wants the same things, likes the same things and is willing to try the same things you want to do.
This means: if you want a slave 24/7, you need a partner who wants to serve 24/7. If you want to administer pain, you need someone who likes to receive it. And so on, get the idea? You need someone who complements your desires, because otherwise it won’t work. The idea is for both of you to have fun, pleasure themselves and have wonderful experiences.
Before you start looking for someone, you also need to know whether you want a long-term relationship or just someone to play around occasionally or every once in a while. If you want a formal relationship, you will probably need to be more compatible; you will need to share common interests outside the BDSM aspect. This means you will need to like each other, just like any other relationship.
