Being a dominatrix can seem like a piece of cake, but it’s actually harder than it looks. There are not just outfits and props, there’s a lot more than that. Being a dominant means being in control while caring for your partner’s needs at the same time. It’s not just bossing someone around for the sake of it; there is an intrinsic psychological aspect behind all of this.
Besides, there are plenty of things and a process that goes behind the scenes. In order to be a good dominatrix you need to be prepared and you will also need to do a lot of research.
Part of this process also includes safety. In any relationship, the dominant part is responsible for the submissive’s safety and being a dominatrix is not an exception. The dominatrix will need to take care of the submissive and will be the prime responsible for their partner’s well being.
In order to play safely, you will need to set some rules beforehand. Setting boundaries and hard limits before you discuss and create a scene will be key. The submissive must be completely comfortable with the activities and must give green light to the scene before you do anything.
Just as well, it’s important to decide on a safe word or signal (if the submissive is wearing a gag for instance) that indicates all play must stop. Don’t ever start a scene or play without having agreed on a safe word beforehand.
As I said earlier, the submissive’s well being is on the dominatrix hands. That is why the dominatrix should always monitor their partner. Throughout the scene, the dominatrix will need to observe the sub to see how they are reacting to the play, psychological and physical. All aspects are important here.
If you are really interested in the subject and want to learn more, it’s probably a good idea to think about going to a class. Classes or some guidance from an expert will definitely help you learn more about the BDSM practices and how to practice them safely. You can check for some local classes around your city or town; there are also great online options as well.
