Your first time wearing a dildo harness can be somewhat intimidating (just like any first times, really) but you don’t need to worry about it. The first thing you need to know is, for your dildo to work, it will need to have a flared base; otherwise it won’t work with a harness and you won’t be able to have the experience you’re looking for. In short, make sure to try your dildo with the harness before the main event to see if it works all right.
The first time you try it on, it may feel somewhat strange and that’s OK, after all you’re not used to having something protruding from down there, wink*. The important thing here is to enjoy the experience; you may find it funny and it is! So laugh if you want. Admire your new member and take a look at the mirror. Walk around for a bit to get used to it and to see how different it feels; you may start to walk with your hips thrusting out or your stance can be stronger and more powerful. Don’t underestimate the power of the cock…even if it’s fake wink*.
Bottom line is, before you try it with your partner, you will need to grow accustomed to having a dildo. And for this to happen you need to be comfortable; adjust accordingly. The tighter the harness, the more control you will have when you thrust. Besides, it will probably feel better for both of you if it’s tight enough. On the other hand, make sure to adjust the straps on your back: you can put them over the cheeks or around each cheek, however it feels the best for you.
When you actually get to do try it with someone else, it’s important for you two to constantly communicate. Ideally your partner will be the one to guide you about the movements, whether they need you to go deeper or slower or if you need to thrust harder, etc. Make sure to really lube up your dildo and your partner as well. You will also need to do some foreplay, remember the most important part about sex is foreplay and arousal in general.
You can also experiment with different positions to see what you two enjoy the best and what feels better. There are a million positions to try, ranging from several where you are facing one other to doggy style or spooning. Don’t be afraid to switch things up.
If you want to make things spicier, make your partner lick and kiss your dildo. It can be highly arousing to witness your partner indulging on the phallus member, wink*.
