Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
My vanilla life is very career and family oriented. I've worked my way up a sexist food service industry ladder to be desired. I am an alpha at work, very strong willed and opinionated. I am also very caring in helping to take care of my family at home.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I knew from a young age that I had a kind submissive side but had no idea I was into bondage until my first Dom tied me up. I was in my late 20’s and from the moment I felt rope and steel brush across my skin I was hooked.
How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or FuzzyRainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.
I am submissive but more specifically I identify as a slave. All of my actions are to please my Master. I belong to him and it makes me happy to make him happy. And in turn I am protected and cared for. I have/do voluntarily give up any right to say no or use a safe word but only after I've decided the man I kneel for is worth everything.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Bondage for me is both physical and emotional. The struggle against the binding allows me to build up and release all of my emotional stress from a demanding career. The feel of just being in the moment, knowing there is nothing you can do but accept the rope or steel clears the mind and gives you a clear moment to just be.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
BDSM is a lifestyle for me. Especially being a slave it isn't something you can just turn off when it comes to my significant other. Outside of work I am inherently submissive.
Have you ever had sex in three or more positions in one session?
I've had sessions that lasted several hours being tied or bound with different implements so yes.
Can you describe your first bondage experience?
My first bondage experience was a whirlwind of feeling and emotion. I started on my knees, hands cuffed behind my back with leather wrapped cuffs. Nipple clamps were also involved as a first. At some point during the scene I wound up hog tied with a lovely purple rope that I came to know rather well in my future. Sadly it all happened so fast I could not reason much of the memory.
What was your best bondage experience?
After 3 years of being with my Dom I was transformed into his rubber doll. Everything to do with restricting the body was my life, ballet boots, neck corsets, catsuits, chains, collars… it was never just one experience, it was everything compounded into who I was always meant to be.
What and who turns you on?
There is no “who” any longer, it's always “what”. Latex stretched across a body, the figure of a woman balancing on ballet heels, a man or woman tied in a position of pain and pleasure. The tools of bondage used on a willing body turn me on. But the words “That's Daddy’s good girl” will always weaken my knees and warm my heart.
Have you ever been so loud having sex that housemates/neighbors commented or complained?
My very first play date I was being spanked and my roommate thought someone had tried to break into our apartment. My roommate time me he left his room searching the place with an unload fun assuming the worst and all I could do was laugh uncontrollably.
Have you ever brought your partner to orgasm using only your hands?
My previous Master preferred my lips to bring him to orgasm and most others didn't have the patience for more than vanilla boring sex.
Do you like being called dirty names during sex?
I've always enjoyed being called someone's “F*@& toy” or slut but it's always been in ownership, always “ my…” General verbal degradation never did it for me.
What is the weirdest thing that ever made you horny?
I'm not sure I've got an answer for this one. Although being the toy of a voyeur Daddy is an interesting thing. Being asked to play with other men as the one who holds your heart watches is thrilling.
What is the fastest way to ever make you horny?
The moment my dominant touches my neck I am instantly aroused. Though the minute he calls me his rivals a hand clenched around my throat.
Who was the sexiest teacher you ever had?
My US history teacher in high school was also the wrestling coach. The man was a god among men at my school and the women fawned over him as though no other man existed. He was rare in the fact that he didn't act as though every girl would gladly kneel before him and that just made him more irresistible.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
We are all human, we all make mistakes and for those reasons trust who you hand your leash to. You should always trust the person you play with and you should always be trustworthy. If you can't say no then you shouldn't play. If your partner doesn't understand no then you shouldn't play.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?
My favorite piece from Sub-Shop is a chastity belt with dual penetrating dildos. It's a beautiful torture and an easy toy for someone long distance to interact with if you've got the means. I can take it to work and still feel attached to a short leash which is where I am most at home.
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or more knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.
If you are in this lifestyle to feel and explore then be open but know your boundaries. You have a right to say know and not feel like less of a person or submissive for doing so. Don't accept anything less than what you want and never force someone to be what they aren't. The road always goes both ways.
