Strap-on sex isn't just for lesbians anymore! Lots of couples are also exploring this new sexual adventure. With so many different styles and sizes of strap-ons in the market today, it's a wonderful time to add a strap-on (or two!) to your bag of tricks for some extra treats.
As with any great outfit, accessories can make or break it! The first step to having great strap-on sex is to find the right dildo for your strap-on. You will first want to decide how big you want your dildo to be. Dildos come in a variety of sizes, shapes, and styles. Experiment with how deep your partner likes penetration and consider thickness (listed as “diameter” in my descriptions) as your guide for what type of dildo you will want to use. You can also shop together to choose the ones that look good to you. Create a wish list of all the fun ones that look best to you both. For best results, I recommend using several different dildo styles and sizes. Getting a smaller dildo is typically best for starters. You can always work your way up and graduating to a new dildo is fun too. Have a little celebration and bring out the new dong!
Some dildos curve to help hit the G-spot during penetration. These are great but they also tend to be harder to use with a strap-on. They also generally come in larger lengths and diameters, which might not be best for beginners or for anal use. They are, however, a great treat to work your way up to. Get yourself several sizes for a great weekend (or week!).
You will also want to choose which material will work best with your strap-on and feel best for your partner. Some dildos are made of silicone, which retains body heat and is easy to clean because silicone is completely nonporous (which simply means that there are no tiny holes on its surface). You can even put silicone toys in the dishwasher! Less expensive models are made of rubber and jelly-like synthetics. If you are a first-timer, you may want to start with a less expensive rubber model.
I would not recommend glass for your first dildo because it is not flexible. But again, it's a great treat to work your way up to it once you feel comfortable with your strap-on! Glass is also great for cleaning and can be completely sterilized, even in a dishwasher. Chill or warm your glass dildo for a whole new experience.
Take time to play with your new toy before putting it to good use. Put on your harness with the dildo and get used to how it feels before getting to the good stuff with your partner. Always remember to play safe and use a condom with your strap-on, especially if you are switching who gets to wear it.
Have your partner help you in the harness and make it part of the fun foreplay! Make sure to keep it hot and it will be a night you won't forget. Stroke your strap-on, and for extra fun, you can even have your partner kiss it. Cock worship isn't just for guys anymore!
As with any type of penetration, you want your lover aroused and ready for it. You will definitely want to use a lubricant even if he or she seems lubricated. Slippery and wet will be much more enjoyable for both of you. Go slow and easy in the beginning and work your way up. In the missionary position, angle your dildo upwards, not back towards the spine, and let your partner guide you how fast and deep to go.
The tighter the straps, the easier your strap-on will be to use. You don't want to have to stop in the middle to tighten your strap-on or have it flop off entirely! For this reason, I recommend going with a leather strap-on such this popular Harness. However, if you are just starting out or would prefer something less expensive, this Vibrating Slip-on Tool will also work really well for you. Look for styles with two individual straps that go under the butt to attach in the back. These are more stable during more vigorous use and don't chafe like the ones with the single strap through the crotch. When using a harness with a single strap through the crotch, I'd suggest wearing panties to avoid chafing in those sensitive areas.
Here are some of the choices:
My 0365DL Red Adjustable Strap On Pegging Dildo Harness can be used by a guy for double penetration fun too!
My 0997M Strap On Panty Style Harness is pretty and useful too. Two straps under the butt cheeks keep it comfortably tight for all night thrusting!
Latex strap-ons like my 0606P Fetish Fantasy Series Beginners Penetrix Strap-On fit like a second skin and this model is equipped with a slim dildo with is great for anal pleasures!
Others are shaped for G-spot stimulation and more! Remember, you can always hold in a dildo with base with a through-the-crotch strap-on style too!
Always remember to clean your toys with cleaners after use! An infection isn't any fun so always use anti-bacterial cleanser to keep all your toys clean and ready for years of hot sex!
