The collar will be one of the first pieces of BDSM bondage gear you use on your submissive, and it's what some people think of first when they hear the term BDSM. It's also an easy piece to use on a partner, so if you're just getting started with your kink play, a collar can be a great place to start. This guide explains how to use a collar to dominate your partner.
What is Bondage Collar BDSM?
What is a Bondage Collar? Before you buy your first bondage collar, it’s worth understanding what these straps are. It’s important to be clear about what you’re getting yourself into before you invest any money. Today, we want to talk about what bondage collars are, how they work and their benefits in BDSM play. Let’s get started! First things first, let’s make sure everyone understands what exactly bondage collars are. A bondage collar is like any other collar (except for its utility), but simply put, it’s used for restraint or sensory deprivation in BDSM play; most people who use them wear them around their neck. Depending on where you go and what kind of special event you attend, you may see such accessories referred to as leather collars by vendors.
But again, at the end of it all, don’t get caught up in names: they serve very similar purposes no matter what anyone wants to call them. If you’ve got something that goes around someone’s neck and restricts movement (the more restrictive, bondage part), then we can safely say it’s a collar – whether it has two buckles or one buckle and five eyelets with heavy duty rivets. So now that we know what bondage collars are, let’s take a look at why someone would want to use one during BDSM play.
Benefits of Wearing the Collar During Sex
Wearing a collar can take your play from great to amazing. Here are some ways that I have been pleased by my partners when they've worn collars:
- It makes me feel more secure in bondage situations. When you're wearing a collar, I know that if something goes wrong, you'll be able to get me out of it quickly. It reminds me that even though I'm tied up and left at your mercy, you still care about my safety and will do everything in your power to make sure nothing goes wrong.
- You can remove all forms of control from me during sex by putting a collar on me beforehand. If you want to be completely dominant over me for an entire scene, having a collar allows you to put one on me before we begin so I am unable to manipulate any aspects of our encounter. I love being forced into positions, or being forced into not moving for extended periods of time while you use whatever parts of my body happen to excite you most at that moment.
- Sex is better when both parties involved wear a collar. Most people say doggy style is their favorite position because there's less vulnerability associated with it--being face down allows them a sense of security because no one can see them. However, I prefer to be on top while wearing a collar because it lets me show off just how strong my thighs are while also allowing for deep penetration. Plus, both of us look extra hot with matching red marks across our necks after a long night of hard sex!
- Be aware that your partner might need different kinds of stimulation than what you normally provide. There have been several occasions where I wanted rough anal sex but couldn't have it until my partner donned his collar. Even though he was completely immobilized and could barely move without pain, he was able to deliver fast and deep thrusts as well as steady enough to let me enjoy myself without being bounced around too much.
- Restricting yourself helps you focus on pleasing your partner rather than getting pleasure yourself. Some of my most intense orgasms have come when I was in full-body restraints or had rope holding down each limb separately. Having no way to stimulate myself allowed me to completely focus on finding every sensitive spot on my partner's body, especially ones that he didn't know existed! For him, focusing only on pleasuring me allowed him to go deeper inside of me and build up even more friction/orgasmic sensations in his balls.
