Being a slave is not easy. If you happen to have an obedient slave who satisfies all your sexual needs and desires, then you should know how to mix BDSM, punishment and reward scenes because these are all important when you want to have a healthy sexual relationship.
First of all, a good slave is one whom you are perfectly compatible with. But it can be hard to find one who is knowledgeable with all the specific BDSM practices and all the fetishes people can have and develop along the way. Finding someone who can complement your sexual desires and fetishes is a victory and you should celebrate it as such, at least, every now and then. So, if your slave says, “Yes, master”, or “Mistress” or even “Sir”, depending on your personal preferences and if they are more than happy to obey your orders and make you as happy as you can be, then you will probably have less punishment sessions and more rewarding encounters. But every slave has his or her own desires. Sometimes it might seem like what they prefer or want to happen do not take place or is not so important during the BDSM scene. 
Hence, it is best for you to offer them a sexual encounter every now and then focused entirely on what they like and what turns them on. You can look at it as a spoiling session wherein you will use the toys your slave enjoys the most like dildos or nipple clamps or even their favorite vibrator. If your slave prefers anal play, then make sure to offer this pleasure as often as you consider necessary. Perhaps, you might even buy a new toy you know your slave will enjoy as a way to show your appreciation and care. As a matter of fact, toys and accessories, especially sexual ones, are highly appreciated by any slave. Make sure you pick a toy with a little sparkle or shine, like a butt plug with a crystal tip because it will add just the right amount of glamour and excitement to your relationship.
On the other hand, you can show your appreciation towards your slave outside of the bedroom as well. Invite him or her to a romantic dinner or go see their favorite movie. Indeed, a healthy relationship is something to consider inside and outside your bedroom. Bear in mind, a BDSM relationship 
is not about being abusive. Be sure to balance everything so you can enjoy your slave’s presence and sexual performances at the same time cherish them. Do not be afraid to show your gratefulness and appreciation for them. Remember a happy slave will always make sure their dominant or dominatrix is happy and content so it is well worth it to invest in both your sexual and day to day relationship.
The relationship between a slave and their dominant is special but complex as well.It has to be developed at different levels. On one hand the dominant takes control of the sexual aspect of the relationship.Yet they also have to make up for the love and emotional damage often part of the most intense BDSM scenes. For instance, some couples prefer edge play and all the BDSM fetishes related to this category. Hence, you need to make the aftercare session longer because the dominant needs to undo all the emotional harm during such sexual activities. Then again, edge play is an extreme BDSM scene often reserved for the more experienced BDSM enthusiasts.It is a gradual experience, meaning you will be able to see what your partner is ready for or if it might be too much. Nevertheless, in time you will be able to enjoy all aspects of BDSM and have the proper aftercare with rewarding sessions together with your slave and bring a lot of stability into your relationship.
