Plenty of people start relationships online. With the rise of technology, is not a surprise a majority of people are finding their partner in the World Wide Web. And this number is growing even more when it comes to BDSM relationships. BDSM groups online are big, so is very easy to find someone with whom you can start a relationship. But while technology brings us closer in a way, it also has a downside: chances are your partner won’t be near to you. So how can you go about having a dominant/submissive relationship online?
Well, to begin with, you want to draw a contract. This will be an online relationship, but boundaries, hard limits, activities and behaviors will still need to be discussed. The clauses will be slightly different from normal BDSM relationships contracts, but the bases will be the same.
Something that is increasingly popular as well is for a dominant to have several subs online. Sometimes these submissives don’t want a committed relationship and just want to take orders through a web cam for a short period of time or a few hours. In those cases, a contract is not necessary. So make sure to discuss with the person what kind of relationship you two will have. Yes, the fact this is an online relationship doesn’t mean you can skip the “expectations, interests and the talk about the relationship”
So, what kind of activities can you have? Well, like I said before it will depend on what you two are interested in exploring. But I’m going to give some ideas you can adapt to your own particular tastes:
- The master can still have control over the sub’s daily activities. They just need to come up with a method so the master can make sure they are obeying.
- The submissive must write a diary about their thoughts/experiences through the day and send them to the Master every day.
- When the submissive gets home from work, they will need to change into cuffs/collar/specific attire Master specifies.
- The submissive will have to let the Master know, through text for instance, they are leaving the house, with whom and what they are planning to do. They also need to let them know they are home.
On the other hand, chastity and other activities can be a part of the relationship because technology makes it possible to see each other through video (hooray 21st century) You can be as specific as you want in the contract. With these tips, online can be just as great as face-to-face bondage play!
