You might wonder what is the purpose of a sexual encounter as long as it doesn’t end in an intense orgasm. But there are many couples that prefer this orgasmless sex style and they sure know its benefits well enough to appreciate it, at least every now and then. While you don’t have to make a routine out of it and you should definitely give yourself the pleasure of enjoying an intense and exciting climax, you should definitely give this type of sex a try. And there are more than a few ways to have orgasmless sex, that you might even find exciting and worth of repetition.
The sexual encounter that don’t lead to an intentional and aimed for orgasm for the partners involved in the experience, is based on the Karezza type of intimacy. Karezza is an Italian world that translates into “caress” in English and it means sexual intercourse that is not focused on achieving orgasms but on mutual attachment between the partners and increasing the affection and intimacy level. The sexual type was identified and named as Karezza by Dr. Alice Bunker Stockham, in 1986. Dr. Bunker was an obstetrician and feminist who contributed tremendously at birth control methods and developed the sexual industry for the benefits of all genders. She encouraged women to practice sex without focusing on an orgasm but she also recommended men to do the same, mainly for birth control purposes. However, the technique evolved until today and it became one of the most practiced forms of intimacy worldwide.
But how can you have such a sexual intercourse and what is you can’t refrain from indulging into an intense orgasm? First of all, the trick is not to refrain from it. You simply don’t focus on it to begin with. You can stimulate your partner and engage in all kinds of sexual practices without doing what you both know will lead yourselves to climax. Instead of focusing on your lover’s genitalia, you can sexually stimulate other erogenous zones of their body like their breasts by using nipple clamps for instance. And not to mention the variety of anal plugs that you can use doing such a session and they come in a variety of sizes and materials that is almost impossible not to find one that suits your needs to play around with. If you are a BDSM enthusiast, things are a lot easier for you and your partner, or so they should be. Because the BDSM community has a lot of fetishes, roleplays and fantasies that focus exclusively on sensation play, sexual stimulation and increased intimacy, with orgasms not always being the goal of such sexual encounters. Sure, there are more extreme methods if you are into rougher play such as chastity or orgasm denial sex scenes that are equally hot and exciting for the right enthusiasts.
The good part of this kind of sex is that when you do engage in an intense and exciting orgasmic sexual encounter, it will be so much more amazing than before. If you take a break from having an orgasm after another, as hard as this might seem, you will learn to appreciate them better and also understand your sexuality and your needs a lot deeper as well. Orgasms are a way to release energy, tension and sometimes stress and they feel different according to how they are achieved and after how long of a break. However, not focusing on your orgasm during a sexual encounter with your lover will leave your mind and body free to focus on each other and increase the connection that you two share and the level of intimacy which is so essential for a happy and healthy relationship. As paradoxical as this might seem, not having an orgasm is often a good thing unless it is coming from a sexual disfunction case in which you should focus your attention on fixing it!
