Impulsive flirting comes naturally to some people, while others tend to think about it more before approaching someone else. Being an impulsive flirt can be an asset. It definitely has some charm. Usually it’s easier to flirt with someone whom you don’t like than with someone you like. For some reason you tend to be more comfortable or maybe it’s because you are less intimidated if you don’t like the person. So, sometimes you don’t have to actually like someone and plan what your game will be when the opportunity presents itself.
You have to be aware of the little opportunities coming your way. For instance, someone may be right there presenting the perfect occasion for you to flirt with them. It is akin to the phrase, ‘When life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.’ So, basically keep your eye open for any guy who seems friendly, confident and open to any kind of human interaction (like flirting) because it can create the perfect chance for you to flirt.
Here are few things to keep in mind when preparing for something like this to happen. The first thing you need to do is to train yourself to be more impulsive. This way you will be able to take action when the situation merits it. Rest assured you will be able to achieve this with some practice, like talking to random strangers. This is a great way to train yourself until it becomes second nature to you. Strike up conversations with strangers to let your impulsiveness flow through. Practice while you are in line at the grocery checkout counter. Talk to strangers and the barista while you are waiting for your coffee. You may even talk with the taxi cab driver. Indeed, you have many opportunities all around you in your daily life to help you practice.
Remember to maintain eye contact while you interact with people but not in a weird way. Just normal eye contact for about two seconds to show you are interested in what they are saying.
The other thing you have to keep in mind is to share in some small talk…and no, it doesn’t mean talking about the weather. To be more comfortable you can practice by chatting a bit with some strangers. For example, you can set a goal of talking to at least five strangers every day to help you get used to this. They don’t have to be people whom you would want to flirt, date or have sex with, simply talk to other people in general like elderly people, women, children, and more. Just get out of your comfort zone and let the conversation flow. Being natural is the key. If you think about it too much then it could make people suspect something is wrong. Thus, it could make them uncomfortable in general. It is also best not to linger too long. It means keeping these interactions short, around three minutes or less. If the other person is not really into the interaction in the first 60 seconds, then move on. You can simply say something like, ‘Nice talking to you but I am running late.’
When flirting with someone always maintain a good posture. Stand up straight, don’t hunch over or cross your arms across your chest. Keep a comfortable and confident stance in order to get the best results. Of course, have fun! Plus, the more you do it the easier it will get over time.
Impulsive flirting can be a positive thing for you and everyone else. If we all get more socially impulsive it will be easier for all of us to flirt around.
