Just as we remember any special moment in our lives, a collaring ceremony is definitely an experience to remember. But just as any event, it takes a bit of planning to get the most out of it. It will be a special moment to celebrate the commitment between a master and his slave, so you will want to plan ahead. But before doing that, I should mention it’s important to be aware this can happen in a more informal environment or in just a casual manner. Alas, if you do wish to make a ceremony out of it, you should think along the lines of a wedding; you are committing to someone in front of loved ones or people you want them to witness the union. So take these guidelines to guide you on this journey:
- The place: collaring ceremonies can happen basically anywhere you choose. It can be outdoors, like a park or maybe the beach; or indoors, in a house or at a hall. It can even happen at a dungeon if that’s what the couple wants! Basically it will all depend on the couple and what they choose goes with their lifestyle and personality. And don’t forget you can decorate as you wish, with flowers, centerpieces or anything that strikes your fancy, wink*.
- The guests: do you want someone to witness the event? Some couples decide they don’t want anybody in attendance for a more intimate affair, but others may choose to share this with close ones. I should mention they are usually small, considering the amount of people that know about the couple’s lifestyle choice.
- The apparel: once again, you will want to think about what you want to wear, as well as the dress code of the guests. The array of options is quite big, some people choose something like a wedding dress or a formal piece of clothing; others choose something like a beautiful set of lingerie… or even nothing at all, wink*. Dominants can dress in a tuxedo, or a full leather Choose what kind of attire you want to wear and what the general atmosphere will be, so make sure to include the dress code for the guests in the invitations.
- The reception: It will all depend on the atmosphere of the ceremony, but you could have a nice dinner or a full-blown party with booze, dance and music. It will all depend on the couple and what they like and feel what’s best for them. Basically anything goes, wink*.
- The invitations: You can make it a formal invitation or maybe an e-invite. It could say something along the lines of: “We______(Dominant) and ________(Submissive) invite you to share the beginning of our new lives where a collar will be given” But you could search online for a variety of options and adapt from there whatever fits your particular ceremony.
- The officiant: Yes, I know that technically there are no officiants needed because it’s not a legally binding ceremony. But a lot of couples choose to have one to help them guide them through the vows or ritual that accompanies the ceremony. Someone who you respect and is willing to do it should be enough, experience is not necessary (as with so many things, wink*) Just make sure to discuss how the ceremony will be conducted beforehand.
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The words: You will need to say some words during the ceremony. Usually the dominant explains and voices why they have chosen the submissive and the pledges they make towards them. The submissive follows with articulating what they hope to accomplish under collar and how they feel about the relationship and the dominant.
- The ceremony: The couple will also choose what they want to do in this part. They can go as formal as they like on this one, so there are some ceremonies when rings are exchanged; others end with a kiss, etc. You can get as creative as you like, so maybe finish up with a new piercing? Or maybe a little play time? The point is to illustrate the commitment and express the intimacy between both parties.
Whatever direction you go, remember the important here is the actual act, everything else is just decoration. Talk beforehand about the importance of the ceremony and take the time to discuss what you both want before planning something. At the end of the day, chances are you won’t remember much about the day, except for the look in their eyes when the collar was being put into place. Ohh what a dream…
