Keeping an open mind when it comes to your sexual life might not come as natural as you expect it to be. Especially if you don’t have a lot of experience and you are not sure about your own sexuality and fantasies. But if you are a shy person and let shame get in the way of your sexual preferences, you will miss out on a lot of intense and exciting experiences. If you find yourself reluctant to dive into interesting sexual scenes and fetishes due to your shame or lack of experience, you will find the following tips very useful in order to overcome this aspect and enjoy an amazing sexual life!
1. Get comfortable with your own body
Explore your body first before you let others discover it! Get used to your shapes and sexual energy and learn how to use it for your benefit if you want to be able to show it off to other potential partners without having a shameful attitude when you do so. You can do this by indulging into more session of masturbation. See what gives you pleasure and what makes your heart beat faster and you will know what to expect from other partners. You can get comfortable, put a nice music on and use your favourite dildo or vibrator while you enjoy several orgasms on your own.
2. Use new sex toys and accessories
Trying new sex toys and accessories is always a good idea and even more so if you want to overcome a certain level of shame that you are struggling with. You can try new toys on your own or with your partner, and get comfortable to express your sexuality in different ways. Nipple clamps or electro-stimulating devices are very popular nowadays and if you didn’t try any of these, you are missing out big time! The more toys you are familiar with the more comfortable you are with your body and expressing your sexuality. Your partner will be more than happy to join you and help you discover new levels of sexual pleasure and some intense sexual satisfaction. And if you are too shy to try the new toys in front of your lover even if you shouldn’t be, give them a try on your own during one of your intense masturbating sessions.
3. Watch more erotic videos
Erotic videos are great to watch and also follow. Couples tend to enjoy watching different erotic videos together and even steal some ideas from them to improve their sexual life. There is something about seeing other people having an intense sexual activity that will make you curious about all the sensations that they are having and you will want to try it too. Plus, when you see them being so comfortable while they perform intense and complex sexual scenes, you might realize that shame has nothing to do with quality sex and it is just an unnecessary obstacle between you and some amazing sexual adventures.
Besides these tips that will help you overcome your shame and shyness, you can always talk with your partner and ask them to be patient with you. Sometimes, your lover can help you more than you can imagine. They will make you feel comfortable during several sexual encounters and can also encourage you to appreciate your body enough to feel no shame while you are exposing it. A good lover will build your self-confidence up through quality compliments that will make you feel attractive and secure on your features. It is also important to take your sexual life step by step and don’t push for things that you are not ready to enjoy at their fullest. In time you will be familiar with many sexual practices and your shame will disappear completely as you indulge in several sexual encounters alone or with your partner. If you do rush things, you will take the risk of missing out on the small pleasures or have a less enjoyable experience so be patient and confide in yourself.
