There are many reasons why some of us might experience feelings of guilt regarding our sexual fantasies or even our sexual behavior. But this is one of the biggest mistakes you can make when it comes to developing your sex life and having a happy and healthy relationship. It is essential to be able to share your sexual desires and fantasies with your partner and if you feel guilty about them you will not only damage your sex life but also your intimate relationship. So, let’s look at some of the most common situations that generate feelings of guilt and why you shouldn’t let that affect your love life and intimate life!
1. It is normal to have fantasies about other people
If you masturbate watching other people or even if you have sexual intercourse with your lover while you are thinking of other people, you shouldn’t feel guilty about it at all. Studies show that the majority of people fascinate about strangers, celebrities or even other acquaintances and this is not only normal but also extremely hot. And no, this is not cheating either. It is simply the human’s natural need for sexual diversity and while some of us have open relationships, other prefer to simply fantasy about having an open relationship. Plus, doing so will give you new kinky ideas that you can share with your lover and enrich your intimate life so you can use such an experience in your advantage.
2. We all have fetishes and we should all share them
When it comes to sexual fetishes, the sky is the limit. People fantasy about everything and sometimes they don’t feel comfortable sharing their fantasies but this is not only wrong but also harmful for a healthy sexual life. If you are into anal play, you should let your partner know and even try out some butt plugs together to see if you are both on the same page on this preference. If you are into bondage styles, get a rope and see how you can both benefit from such a sex scene. Whatever it is your sexual fantasy, keeping it to yourself only, will never take you very far. And if you would like to try some kind of roleplay, you can always get a costume to fit your fantasy and see how your partner reacts to such a sexual fantasy. You might be surprised of how many fetishes you can enjoy together if you stay open to each other!
3. Dirty talk is hot not disrespectful
We all like dirty talk more or less when the passion is at high levels and we have a hot sexual encounter with our lover. But not all of us dare to express such a fantasy and act on it. This is due to fear and guilt for being turned on by it. But your partner might be into dirty talk just as much as you are and you will never know what could come out of such a fantasy if you don’t give it a real try. Some couples take dirty talk one step further and love to have some verbal humiliation during their sex scenes. This shows a great connection between the two partners and also increases the sexual satisfaction which is the main goal of any sex scene! So, speak up your mind and enjoy your lover’s kinky replies!
If you are a BDSM enthusiast, these practices might not be new to you as BDSM practitioners tend to be very in touch about their sexuality and have no problem sharing it which is what makes this community so extremely hot and popular. But even if you are not, you can always explore new areas of your sexual life without having any feeling of guilt for pleasing yourself and your lover, no matter how you get around this ultimate goal.
