Who doesn’t love a relaxing massage? It is a great way to loosen up and it lets you feel wonderful sensations all over your body. The only way a massage can get better is if your partner is the one giving it to you. There are some tips to create the perfect ambience and massage experience. You can even do this at home and it will feel like you are in a professional environment. Who knows, maybe this Valentine’s day, you won’t have to go out for dinner *wink*
The main thing to know when you do a massage at home is to create a calming environment. Usually, the things in our houses hardly transmit the sensation of a relaxing space. Try to declutter the space where you will give the massage, you can dim the lights, light some candles and use some scented oils to create the illusion of a soothing vibe. Usually, the color orange is used to brighten the atmosphere. Ylang-ylang scent is used to heighten sensual experiences and lavender oil works great if you want to relax someone.
Before you set to work on your partner, take five minutes to meditate or at the very least clear your mind and prepare for the massage. Keep your mind in the present and do not think about something else. If you are in the right state of mind, you can transmit the same feelings to your partner as well.
Before you start the massage, it is also important to have everything you will need at hand. For instance, grab the oil you will use for the massage because lubrication is of outmost importance. You can use almond oil, coconut oil or whatever you prefer. You will also need a towel for the clean-up plus two pillows (place one pillow under your partner’s ankles and the other one for the face and neck). When your partner is facing up, move the lower pillow below his or her knees. Put on some nice and relaxing music, preferably something you both like. Lastly, remember to cut your nails beforehand or at the very least, make sure they are not too long so you won’t scratch your partner.
When you are giving the massage, focus on some slow strokes. Apply some oil in your hands and on your partner’s body, do long sensual strokes. You also need to remember to have their needs and preferences in check. Maybe they love it when you put an elbow in their lower back, even if it sounds uncomfortable for you.
Ask them where they need more pressure and try to sense what their muscles need. With time, you will be able to gauge their needs without them having to voice it out loud. If you feel a muscle is too tight, keep the pressure a bit longer there so you can release knot.
Always start slow and gentle, the body simply works the best when you start slowly and move upwards because of how the nervous system works. As a matter of fact, the human brain prefers slow and repetitive motions, as well as some persistent pressure. Try imitating the rhythm of the music, this will definitely heighten the sensory experience.
You can also use your fingers only, not just your whole hand. The important thing is to never cause pain. If at some point you get tired, just try to change your position so your own body can relax. Another thing to keep in mind is to maintain the right pressure with your hands. To do this, you should drop your shoulders and lift your head. Always try to lean in from your core, never lean using your hands because you will be creating unwanted pressure.
As for the rest, try it out and just have fun with it *wink*
