Role playing is an integral part of the BDSM lifestyle. Most of the sexual experiences between a dom and sub are some form of roleplay. You and your partner have complete control over how tame or wild the scene will get, but chances are high that role playing is involved to some degree.
But what happens when you like to create fun and exciting scenes and you run out of ideas? That's simple. You do a little research and talk to others about ideas and then adapt them to your own style and needs. I've made it simple for you by compiling a few good and thrilling ideas that you can enjoy with your partner.
1. Don't Tell
This scene goes by a lot of different names, but the gist of it is that you are surprising your partner by what is about to happen. The unknown and the anticipation that it brings will be enough to enhance any playtime.
One way to accomplish this is for the dom to leave some goodies in plain sight. Things such as a blindfold and restraints are great. The dom will then leave instructions for what the sub is to do and that she is then to wait. She will sit and build anticipation and eagerness for what is about to happen.
This also works well if the dom binds and gags the sub without telling her about what he's planning to do. Each touch or word is more exciting.
2. Teacher/Student
A popular role playing is where the dom is in a position of power over the sub. This can be a boss/employee relationship or a teacher and a student. There are many ways to implement this scenario.
The sub will be in a place of powerlessness and the dom will be convincing the sub on what needs to be done. For instance, a promotion and raise are on the line if only the boss could get what he needs. Or grades are dependent upon sexual favors. Think of it as going back to college again…but this time much more fun…
The fun of this role playing is the complete act of submission it requires.
3. Cop/Criminal
Again there are variations of this role play that can take place. It can be a security guard and a shoplifter. Anything that offers the same basic idea will work.
In this scenario, the criminal is in trouble and likely handcuffed. The cop or guard will then begin an interrogation. They are trying to gain information that is needed. This can occur through a thorough search of the body, questioning and various forms of sexual teasing to lead to the desired result. The goal is to make it fun and exciting.
4. Hostage
One exciting role playing experience is when the sub plays someone that is a hostage or kidnap victim. The dom will then begin to tease and sexually torture the victim.
This scenario is often altered depending on how far one would like to go with it. Some take it as far as the sub being a victim and having her own body used as a toy without full consent. This is known as consenting to not consent. Others keep it mild and the sub will willingly agree to whatever is going to happen.
5. Virgin
Some BDSM participants like to role play that the sub is actually very inexperienced in the sexual department. This role play works even better if you are working with a sub that is new to the lifestyle and role playing.
During this scene the dom will show the sub slowly and methodically all of the things he feels she needs to understand about sex.
The most important thing about role playing is to remember that you want to explore new ideas. If there is a part of one that you enjoy but some of it doesn't work for you, adapt it. Change it up to make you both happy and you will find that your sex life becomes even more exciting. Remember, no matter how much exploring you do to always keep the lines of communication open, have a safe word and keep it consensual. Let yourself explore your fantasies and let that ignite your passion for each other!
