You can have an amazing bondage and kinky sex experience right in your own bed with just a little imagination and these great 10 tips to turn your bed into the ultimate bondage playground.
1) Know What You're Getting Into
If you're playing around with bondage, be sure that both you and your partner are fully aware of what you're getting yourself into. Bed bondage straps might look innocent enough, but if you don't do it right, things can get messy—fast. Understand that BDSM is a culture all its own—one that has been around for thousands of years. It's not just a trend or a fad; it's an entire way of life. To fully immerse yourself in it and understand its nuances is essential.
2) Have Decent Bondage Equipment
Proper bondage equipment can make all of your bedroom dreams come true—plus, a few good pieces of gear will last you for years. Having a variety of reliable (and sexy) bondage equipment on hand is important if you’re serious about getting tied up. It would be wise to invest in high-quality straps that will restrain you firmly without cutting off circulation or rubbing uncomfortably against your skin. You might also consider investing in wrist and ankle cuffs, which are useful if you’re just beginning to experiment with restraint play.
3) Be Safe While Having Fun
The more clothes we wear, not only does it cut down on our ability to feel and enjoy pleasure, but it also makes it more difficult for a partner (or partners) to play with our skin. Consider getting rid of some or all clothes during sex – you may find that you get even more enjoyment out of bed sex than you expected. A word of caution: make sure that whoever is putting restraints on you has experience in doing so safely! Remember: safety first! The last thing any of us want is a trip to an emergency room!
4) Mix Things Up Between Vanilla Sex and Bed Bondage
Trying out bondage is a great way to add some spice and variety in your sex life. Instead of always having one partner be dominant and one submissive, you can both be more equal or switch it up depending on what you're in a mood for. And, unlike role-playing games, there's no right or wrong way to use bondage—it’s all about exploring your fantasies with each other as equals.
5) Use Fewer Clothes During Bed Sex
Most of us sleep in a t-shirt and boxers or pajamas; it's no wonder we need so many clothes for getting down. Opting for fewer clothes can free up an extra minute or two on your daily routine, giving you more time for an after-work date with your partner. If you're worried about feeling underdressed, just grab some sexy lingerie—like a bustier and high heel—to spice things up before bedtime hits. It may seem silly to you, but trust us: bedroom bondage is nothing if not hot.
6) Use (Nicely Scented) Lube While Having Sex on the Bed
As anyone who has ever tried it knows, dry sex just doesn’t cut it. Lube is essential for comfortable, pleasurable, safe sex in all its forms. Water-based lubes are compatible with condoms and are therefore a good choice if you’re using condoms as a birth control method. Oil-based lubes should be avoided, however, as they can weaken latex.
7) Explore Yourself First Before Tying Up Your Partner
There’s no way to know what you and your partner will enjoy until you start experimenting. If one kind of restraint isn’t working, try another. Try using restraints on different parts of your body; experiment with blindfolds and gags. There are all kinds of materials you can try too—leather, rope, webbing...the list goes on. Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box! You might find some bondage gear that turns out being more fun than you expected it would be. Trust us—it's fun! And even if you don't end up liking a particular item, there are plenty more items out there that could work just fine for what you're looking for. Don't be afraid to explore!
8) Take Turns Being in Charge
Being handcuffed is one of many bedroom activities that can be performed safely when you use bondage gear, but only if it’s used correctly. During BDSM play, there are two people—the dominant and submissive partner. They each take turns being in charge—which is called top and bottom. To have a good time together, you need to communicate clearly about what turns you on and what makes you uncomfortable. If one of you tries a sexual activity that isn’t working for either of you, speak up! You can then switch roles or do something else entirely. This will help both partners get exactly what they want out of sex and keep your bedroom fun for everyone involved!
9) Don't Be Afraid to Experiment!
The key is finding a restraint system that works for you and your partner. There are many different types of restraints: scarves, ties, Velcro cuffs, straps and handcuffs are just a few examples. Make sure you choose a restraint that fits your body type and make sure it is comfortable and easy to use. Having multiple restraints can also help add some variety into your bondage playtime. The great thing about bondage is there really aren't any hard-and-fast rules or do's and don'ts. As long as you're both enjoying yourselves, it's all good! So don't be afraid to experiment; chances are you'll find something that works for both of you!
10) Relax And Have Fun with It
Trying bondage for the first time? No matter how serious you and your partner take your kink, it’s always a good idea to start out with light play and work your way up from there. It’s also a great idea not to pressure yourself or your partner into doing something that makes either of you uncomfortable. If things get too intense, just stop and try again later. Remember: You don’t have to go all in with any one type of play right away—take it slow! Have fun with it. If you find yourself doubting whether what you're doing is OK, check in with each other and make sure everyone's still having fun.
