If you are looking to strengthen the bond between you and your partner, sex may be a great way to do so. But how can you improve the sex you are having? There are plenty of ways, and it may surprise you how easy it is.
Probably one of the best pieces of advice is to be aware of your partner’s body and reaction. During sex, it’s important for you to focus on your partner, study and learn; especially when it’s a new relationship because as you know, not everyone enjoys the same things. You should be aware of any changes in their breathing (and I’m not just talking if you have them tied up wink*), how and where they like to be touched, the pressure and the sensations that bring them closer to climax. If you both focus on the other, you will have the perfect recipe for an amazing experience.
Another thing that is very important is to always speak up about your dislikes and likes. If something turns you on or if your partner is doing something that feels wonderful, don’t hesitate to tell them! And for the opposite scenario works as well, if you are not really feeling it or if they can just move a little to their right to hit that spot, it’d be great, so tell them!
Eye contact is extremely important. Sometimes we take it for granted, but looking at your partner in the eye it’s extremely hot. It doesn’t matter if you are having sex, performing a blow job, masturbating them…the best way to connect is not with your touch, but with your eyes.
For the ladies, it’s important to learn how you like things, just because women and vaginas can be a bit more complicated than that, wink*. For you to learn what is it that stimulates you, the best tip I can give you is to masturbate. You can then report to your partner and let them know. Or you can do it in front of them sometimes to make things extra exciting…remember what I said about eye contact? Masturbate in front of them, make eye contact, but don’t let them touch you wink*.
If you feel you sex life has become somewhat stale, try to plan a date night, just the two of us once a week, or at least once every two weeks. The idea is not get out it and have some time for yourselves. Better yet if you plan something fun in advance like a fantasy you want to act out, a role play scene, or use a toy, etc. It will add spice to your lives!
