Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I shift back and forth between part time jobs that suit the current season. Sometimes this can get boring but it pays bills and is nice to look forward to each year.
How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or FuzzyRainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.
I have always enjoyed the use of power. I have never really been into pain or impact play much but the idea of switching back and forth for small amounts of time is exciting in aspects of BDSM. If I had to choose I would say I am a switch/dominant most of the time. I do enjoy edging and rewarding a submissive but also enjoy being pushed over the edge by a dominant woman who has a splash of (I’ll do whatever the fuck I want). It can be difficult to always come up with the next scene or position.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I had a minor interest in highschool. When I first got into college and could explore a bit more I found the back and forth connection of a dom and sub intriguing. I will admit that my bondage is more of a sexual nature with my spouse now but I explored some ties and tutorials with friends in a non-sexual way. We all learned a lot from those.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
I would say mainly physical. there is a better emotional connection when two people come together to achieve a heightened experience but mainly I see it as a pathway to more physical fun.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
I see BDSM as a fun ice cream topping. Not meaning to get into vanilla puns etc… It is a nice addition to regular life. Since there are so many aspects and different levels of kink one doesn’t need to go all out every single time. It can be used as a time killer, alternate sexual activity, role playing element, and life skill.
Can you describe your first bondage experience?
I was not necessarily tied up to a large extent but while in college I had visited a friend’s dorm. She and her roommate were joking around and long story short I was lying on the floor “tied” (Rope wound around us and maybe one or two ties around our hands) to each other. We were fully clothed and could have easily gotten out and I can't remember how this came to be but everyone was having a good time and didn’t think anything of it. I found that I enjoyed this idea of being able to do some things and not others.
What was your best bondage experience?
There are too many to choose from but probably some session with my spouse where there is a slight predicament but still achievable goal. Somewhere where I can oversee things happening but still know that we both are getting pleasure from it.
Which part of your body do you consider the most sexy?
I enjoy my arms. I am not super muscular but have heard that my arms are nice.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
When I first started into BDSM I was very secretive since I was in a job that would not do well if news got around. I did not want any people to know of my hobbies. All of my friends who I confided in were supportive and I’ll admit I probably shocked some others when I told them. I want to stress that I am very supportive of other people’s kinks and really enjoy the phrase don’t yuck my yum. I would encourage someone to find out what level of activity they are looking for. The safety standards of safe words, scissors with rope bondage, and basic health are all highly encouraged. Most importantly, if you do not have someone to practice with then seek out some self bondage tutorials and techniques.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?
Who can deny that a magic wand isn’t one of the greatest tricks in their toy chest? I think sub-shop does a great job of giving different items enough of a chance. My second choice would be nipple clamps with little bells on them.
What is your favorite knock-knock joke?
Knock Knock.
Who’s there?
Fancy.
Fancy who?
ME!
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or more knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.
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