Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
By day I work in technical support, and I try not to let my hidden self distract me too much! My everyday life is exciting with my hobbies, but nothing beats when I dig into my toybox…
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I was around age 7, and going to school where I had to wear a uniform. I discovered that the ties could be used to tie my hands or ankles together. Later I started playing with bike locks, and then I moved on to handcuffs and improvised ankle cuffs with a length of chain. I didn’t learn the phrase bondage until I was in high school, but I have loved dressing up and tying up for well over 20 years.
How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or FuzzyRainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.
I am a very submissive sissy. I love feeling like I have no control, and I love being restrained and at the mercy of others.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
In my case, it is a little of both. I love the physical sensation of being gagged or restrained or hooded, and I love how it makes me feel. Emotionally is a different story. While I do not identify as transgender or gender-fluid, I feel like my life is more fulfilled when I am dressed up and wearing a head harness or a chastity device. One must feel comfortable in their own skin, but bondage is more of a second skin, one that when combined with my first skin makes me feel totally comfortable.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
Right now, unfortunately, it is a diversion. I am hoping to make it more of a lifestyle, but with a spouse who is not into the kink scene, that will be difficult.
What is one song you’d like to have sex to?
Barbie Girl by Aqua, with me on the bottom, of course!
Can you describe your first bondage experience?
In my college dorm room, a friend had me dress up and crawl around on my knees, then she handcuffed me and spanked me with a paddle. Then she had me stand in my high heels and repeat everything she told me to. It was short, but it was incredible.
What was your best bondage experience?
A friend from college agreed to dominate me, and we booked a motel room. She had me dress up, and then she tied me using a very long rope with an elaborate set of knots. She then beat me with a crop and had me count the strokes, first in English, then in French, then in German. Then she untied me and taught me to curtsy to her, and then she had me perform calisthenics. Then she used me as a footstool, and when she left she had me crawl with her to the door, and told me to stay on the floor with my nose to the door for 10 minutes. Of course I obeyed!
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
Communication between the participants. An untrained dominant may do some real damage, be it physical or psychological. An understanding of expectations is critical for BDSM success.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Be prepared to spend, because you won’t be thinking when you see all of the fun toys! Set a budget and stick to it, and have a blast!
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?
My Raspberry Silencer Panel Ball Gag Trainer. I love knowing that my mouth is gagged but my drool can drip out, increasing my humiliation. It also shows anyone who cares to look that I am being controlled.
If your life was a movie, what songs would be on the soundtrack?
Welcome to the Jungle (Guns ‘n Roses), Danger Zone (Kenny Loggins), Vertigo (U2) – life is good but crazy!
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or silly knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.
Closet BDSM participants and sissies…communicate with your partner. If your love for each other is true, you will find a way to make things work.
