If you are into BDSM fetishes, it is only natural for you to want your partner to be part of your incredible sexual fantasies. But if your partner is not so familiar with the BDSM community, you will have to present them the amazing sexual options they can look forward to once they join. This is an easier task when you are the dominant since you have control of the situation. However, remember to take baby steps to allow your potential submissive partner to enjoy the process until they become the full-pledged slave you want them to be. Even so, here are a few tricks to help speed things up so your lover can become your sexual slave sooner!
1. Get the right toys and accessories
Having the right sexual toys and accessories is very important especially if your partner is a beginner in matters of BDSM. You can make them fall in love with some cute paddle before actually talking about spanking or have them feel the soft material of a quality flogger or whip before diving into an intense impact play session. Once they get used to these basic tools, you will both be ready to experience the intense sensations provided by a pair of nipple clamps or the amazing orgasms provided by the right orgasm belt. Remember skipping the beginner steps will not get you to this level any faster. So take your time and be patient.
2. Start slow
Talk to your partner beforehand to know what they think of your BDSM fantasies and how they can help you fulfill them. It is important to know their stand on the matter before you start working your way up from there. If they don’t mind letting you take control of the sexual scene, half of your problem is solved. But if they do then you might want to negotiate a compromise so both of you will get what you expect during the sexual encounter. Being a submissive is highly exciting but chances are your lover doesn’t see this amazing side of the role yet so it is your job to show them just how much pleasure they can achieve by letting you lead the way inside the bedroom, well at least every now and then. You should know submissive partners can experience a higher level of relaxation and enjoyment during BDSM scenes and it creates an addictive feeling which will make them come back for more.
3. Use dirty talk
Dirty talk is a great way to express your most intense sexual desires during an encounter or in foreplay to prepare both of you for one. You can start by describing to your lover the amazing things you are feeling while being intimate together. Develop the dirty talk session until you get to express all your fantasies freely to learn what they are willing to be a part of. You can be as kinky and as intense as you want during dirty talk and if you speculate your lover is ready for more, don’t hesitate to take things to the level of verbal humiliation. Once both of you are comfortable with verbal humiliation during sexual intercourse or stimulation then transforming your partner into the obedient slave you want them to be becomes easier. Bear in mind words have an intense power when it comes to sexual encounters and sometimes they can make the difference between a regular quickie and an intense BDSM experience.
However, you will also need some patience if your lover is not yet physically and mentally prepared to move at a fast pace when it comes to accomplishing your sexual fantasies. Hence, it is crucial for you to find a balance point and taking your time to get to know each other at this new sexual level. At the end of the journey, you will make a great team who is ready to dive into any BDSM scene, from impact play to edge play!
