Bondage can be super fun. Best of all, you don’t need to go all out to enjoy its perks. What this means is you don’t have to build a dungeon in your bedroom to introduce some bondage into your life. Depending on your tastes you can take as many elements of it as you like such as toys, restraints, blindfolds, etc. You may even experiment with some of these things in your sex life. They could become favorites of yours and a staple into your bedroom later on.
BDSM can be an amazing way to add some excitement to your life and explore some new boundaries within yourself and your relationship. Practicing bondage will not only be fun, it will also improve your relationship. You need to put a lot of trust in your partner when indulging in this kind of play thus it will bring you closer together. So, before doing it you should know a bit more about the elements commonly used in light bondage like some light restraints, blindfolds, light spanking, and toys. Bear in mind these are very different from the ones used in hardcore bondage.
Safety is always a main concern and not the exception. As mentioned earlier, a high level of confidence is involved in this so you will need to protect yourself adequately. Before you start anything, you need to set up a safe word. The idea is to use it when you feel your boundaries are being crossed, whatever they may be. When the word is used, it will make play time stop immediately.
You can use two different words: the first category is the ‘yellow’ word, which means the activity is getting close to crossing the boundaries and the intensity should change or some adjustments should be made. The other safe word is the ‘red’ word, which means play should be stopped immediately, no questions asked. So obviously before you decide on a word, you should discuss beforehand what the word will stand for; the meaning should be crystal clear to both partners for their own safety.
To start with, you can experiment with some light elements. Blindfolds are one of them. They are great because all the other senses will be heightened. This means everything will feel more intense, from the lightest kiss to the most erotic touch. Another cool thing about them is you can use blindfolds in foreplay and during sex. Each time will feel different and very intense. You don’t need anything else, just grab one and continue to have sex as usual.
Verbal play is another cool way to introduce bondage. You can have a little bit of fun with this by saying things like, ‘These are the rules’ or ‘You have to do ___’ and ‘If you don’t do as told there will be consequences.’ If anyone of you has a fantasy along these lines then this is the perfect way to act them out.
Alternatively, you can make your partner watch as you use a toy, something like a vibrator, for instance. Simply sit in front of him or her and open your legs to use your toy. All the while you are doing so, they will not be able to touch you or themselves. This scenario is very fun and incredibly sexy as well. If they fail and touch themselves or you then you will need to punish them.
The last scenario involves restraints. Being tied up during sex is something extremely sensual since you do not have any control and feel completely liberated. If you feel naughty, create your own scenario — mix and match as you like…wink*
