You might think that an orgasm comes naturally during sexual intercourse or sexual stimulation and when it doesn’t, you can find a hundred different reasons to justify its absence. But studies show that there are specific causes that might keep you away from having such an intense sexual satisfaction and some of these causes are actually under your control. So, if you had problems reaching an intense orgasm, this is what might cause your struggle!
1. Certain medication
If you follow a certain medical treatment this can have a direct impact on your sexual life and your capacity to reach an intense orgasm. Especially if you take anti depressives that can fix your anxiety but can reduce your sex drive simultaneously. Make sure to check with your doctor before starting such a treatment so you know what to expect when it comes to its side effects. Also, explain your partner that the lack of sex drive or the struggle to reach an orgasm might be due to the medication that you are taking, and they shouldn’t feel like you are not enjoying your sex life together because of some personal reasons.
2. You have the same kind of sex every time
Sexual routine is a monster that can damage not only your sex life and ability to reach an orgasm but also your entire relationship. When you repeat the same sex scene over and over again, eventually you will lose interest in it and you will not be able to reach the sexual satisfaction that you were aiming for. To avoid such an unpleasant situation, make sure to introduce new sex toys and accessories in your sex life. Get a pair of nipple clamps, use a new dildo or vibrator and even discover new fetishes such as bondage styles or impact play using a fancy paddle. All these experiences will make you look forward to a new evening spent in intimacy with your lover and both of you will have a better sexual encounter!
3. You skip the foreplay
Skipping the foreplay when you are aiming for an intense sex scene is never a good idea! Even if you are not having enough time to develop a complex sex scene, you should give it a few minutes to excite yourself and your partner. This will stimulate your senses and create the intense connection between the two of you that is so essential for an intense sexual pleasure and satisfaction. If you skip foreplay, the entire sexual encounter can become rather mechanical and your chances to have the climax that you want will be smaller!
4. You are too stressed
Stress is a modern disease of our days and, unfortunately, many of us don’t know how to control its effects. We take stress in the bedroom and this is one of the worst mistakes that we can do! When you are stressed you will not be able to relax enough to enjoy an intense orgasm with your partner and the entire sexual experience will be rather frustrating. This can create other problems for your intimate relationships and even lead to severe arguments. Better to do some meditation and release yourself from all the stress that you accumulated during the day before you are enjoying each other’s company.
5. You don’t know what your body needs
If you are not in touch with your body and your own sexuality, you will not know what to look for in a sexual experience and how to reach the orgasm that you want so much. You will not be able to identify the type of sexual stimulation that works best for you and if you don’t know these details your partner will not know them either. Take your time to explore your own sexuality and have constant sessions of masturbation to see what gives you pleasure and how you can lead your partner to reach an orgasm together!
