If you are a lesbian who is just starting out with strap on sex then things can be a bit complicated for you. But it is ok, you are a beginner! So, there are some things you should know beforehand to be adequately prepared. Remember this is like going camping: the more prepared you are, the better your experience will be.
The first thing you want to do is to let your partner know you have never had sex with a strap on before. You nothing to be ashamed, remember there is a first time for everything. Being honest will make your experience go smoother. This will also give your partner a better idea of how she will do things with you. For example, they can take things slowly. It is completely normal if you are nervous, so be sure to discuss this as well. Since it is your first time, it is advisable to try a smaller dildo too. Starting out small is always best to do and with time you may move on to a larger one.
When you are ready to try it, you need to engage in foreplay to get you properly aroused. Kiss, caress and touch each other all over. You may even watch some porn and spank each other. Basically, do anything to make you hot. This will make the experience more enjoyable and you will be wet. To be on the safe side, keep a bottle of lube nearby to help the dildo slide in better even if you are already super aroused or wet.
For positions, you can begin by lying down on your back with your legs spread out. As an option, you can bend your knees. Putting a pillow or cushion on your lower back will improve the experience for almost everyone. This is a good position because you will be able to look straight into your partner’s eyes so you can communicate clearly. It also allows for good penetration. She will start with a rhythm, so try to move your hips to match hers. Move your hips in whatever way feels best for you then go with your instinct. This position is good for the first few times. As you progress further with strap on sex you will feel more comfortable experimenting with other positions.
Remember, just because she is wearing the strap on the first few times it doesn’t mean she will only be the one to wear it always. You can also experiment by wearing it. Don’t feel as if you need to stick to one role because it is what is expected. Wearing a strap on will feel very different from being on the receiving end so you will also need some time to get used to the sensation. If you want to try it, wear one for a while before penetrating your partner. Having a penis for the first time in your life is a very different experience and a whole new sensation!
Strap ons dildos can be a wonderful experience and a great addition to any couple’s sex life. But don’t feel pressured to use them every time. You can still enjoy other types of sex. Leave the strap on for when you feel like using one. The point is, everyone should try it at least once just to see how it feels. If you don’t like it then you can move on with your life. If you do like it, you will be in for a lifetime of pleasure.
