Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I am more or less just an average person on the street, not a tall guy by any means but tall enough to not be classified as short. I am a coder who currently works for different companies depending on what they need.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I first discovered bondage when my girlfriend suggested that we try something new and she was the one who actually looked into all of it to surprise me. The first one we actually tried was her being on the leash while she had to listen to every command I gave.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I have tried submissive and it didn't really get me into it that much. So we decided to stay with me as the dominant one and from there I have more or less become her master and she has even started referring to me as such in public too. (We do drop all of this around her family though, for pretty obvious reasons.)
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
My desire for bondage would definitely fit both answers. The physical works because I feel as if she is mine and mine alone. I enjoy watching her squirm as she is tied up and enjoying the pleasure as to points where I have even had to undo everything because her orgasm was a little to much for her. Then following it with the emotional side of it; more creates a sync between us that she has absolute faith in me that I will care for and caress her body to my pleasure while making sure she enjoys her own side.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
BDSM has practically become a lifestyle for us now. We have even bought her a full face mask with just an open mouth piece while she has the collar and leash on so I walk her around completely bare besides that. We try and only keep it on our premise so no one can call the cops. We have gone to dinner with her boss and I made sure she had a remote control set up in her for me to tease her while at the table. Our lives have completely changed since then to now we try and incorporate it into more or less everyday tasks.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Since she was the one who talked me into it I would say I was the more skeptical about what we were about to get into. I had watched some porn of it and when we first started she was worried I was expecting all of that from square one. In actuality, I was expecting it super slow since neither of us had done it before. I believe what truly helped this blossom was I told her I was more than ready to take multiple tries to understand everything we were about to embark on.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
Our first experience was, as stated earlier, with the leash and collar. We used it more of as she had to follow me around and when I was cooking dinner she had to pleasure me while I could use the leash to bring her with me to continue keeping her at my side.
What was your best bondage experience?
Our best bondage experience was a little something that could of gotten us in a lot of trouble. I gave her the collar and face mask, and headed the park. It was about 11:30pm so no one was there and I walked around first while I left her chained in the car with a vibrator left in her. When I came back I took her with me while I made her walk on all 4 and took her to a table there and you can probably fill in the rest of our story from there.
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
Our most creative safe word was Chihuahua.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
I feel this answer changed depending on which side you are. For dominant you need to not just rush it but savor watching the other side enjoy it while they water at the mouth for more. As the submissive you enjoy watching the spark in their eye as they watch your body convulse to the touch of the whips or the light spank of a hand. My girlfriend loves it more when I use my hand and slowly choke.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
My best advice is always listen to the other side. If they actually look to be in pain it’s okay to stop and check on them. If they love it you can give them a little encouragement before you get back into it. That shows that both sides are willing to work to enjoy this euphoria of pleasure.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
Our favorite toy actually from the shop is one of the leather whips. She loves the feeling of it, really anywhere I use it. I enjoy the marks it leaves even some days she'll go to sleep and when we wake up the marks are still there and I know I did that.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
The one we really want to try is her bound from the ceiling and gagged up with a butt plug and a vibrator so everything is in use and I can take my time slowly turning her body into my toy with wax and whips.
If you had to be trapped in a tv show for a month, which would you choose and why?
I believe I would like to be trapped in the show Sleepy Hollow. It has each of the characters have to use history in order to deal with the problems. Since things can't be rushed in the show to figure out how point A connects to point B, as someone who takes control all the time, I would work well with being given time to break it all down.
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or a silly knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags
What sound did Cinderella make when she got to the ball? *Gagging noises*
