Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I am a computer builder/programmer who enjoys anime, games, and other time wasters.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
One of my former girlfriends introduced me to the concept of domination and submission.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
Dominant
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Both, there is a definite physical reaction for both my sub and I when she is tied down. As for emotional, the inability to move, and it's related feelings keep us in the moment, for her it's a reminder of her self-proclaimed place, for me it is something that forces me to focus intensely on her, and her condition (so nothing bad happens to her).
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
A lifestyle.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Only two of mine: My current wife/submissive, and the one that introduced me to it.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
I feel I compromised the mood of the scene by over-preparing in the event of something going wrong. It was most definitely a learning experience.
What was your best bondage experience?
Ones involving a brush of danger.
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
Jade
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
Trust between all members involved. It puts everyone at ease and makes the scene easier to enjoy.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
It is very complicated, however trust is the cornerstone of any scene. If you do not trust the other, or feel you are not trusted STOP, and work on it before continuing.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
Collars, and things that can be worn under clothes, it gives my sub and I the feeling of being in a scene without announcing it to the world.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
I cannot think of one off hand.
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or more knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.
Everyone seems to forge a different set of rules for their relationship, BDSM or otherwise. My sub and I started with a set of rules we found online, and shaped them to fit our own preferences.
