I’m a single lady working as one of the heads in a marketing firm. I tried to use dating apps before but to no avail. Guess I’m meant to live life on my own as most guys just can’t handle me. But trust me, it’s not boring or sad; in fact, I find it exciting knowing that I am free to do whatever I want, as in whatever, if you know what I mean.
I look sweet and harmless, as what most of my colleagues would say but I know I’m more than that. My submissive definitely knows I’m not. And yes, I only got one sub despite being not in a relationship. I’m still new to BDSM, particularly with being a female dominant, so I stick to someone I am more comfortable with. Still, I have dirty thoughts about different guys and what I would do to them as my slaves.
Going back, what makes this BDSM thing more exciting is the fact that I do it with my boss – and I know it’s quite a normal scenario in porn videos but the only twist, perhaps, is that I’m the one who gives orders during those times! The fear and excitement of getting caught with all the stunts and toys is unimaginable and for now, I won’t trade it to anything else.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
Actually, I’m really fond of watching porn, which is still kind of hard to admit even to these days. It’s my kind of Netflix – I binge sometimes. Then I found this BDSM clips which I normally skip. It’s quite scary and weird but seeing a female dom and her male sub is satisfying. After all, I really have a strong personality (and most of the people I knew can attest to that).
So this happened: my boss and I flirt harmlessly with each other, and by that I mean it’s not really obvious but we both know we like each other. One day, things just get out of hand and then we kissed – it was pretty rough and all that but rather than letting him take control of me, I pressed him hard on the wall. He was surprised but he did not resist. The next days, I found myself browsing on some floggers and handcuffs online. I checked different sites but Subshop.com stood out – pro’lly because of its hot pink theme!
Every time we make out, I use the pink Suede flogger and handcuffs I bought from your website. It looks so cute but truly, looks can be deceiving. I could see how he felt the pain and pleasure all at the same time and being in control of what I want doubled the pressure on my behalf. Since then, I never leave these two goodies at home. We’ll never know when there’s action!
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I’m dominant although I’ve been thinking about being a switch sometimes. But there’s something really arousing about taking things in your hand, being in control, especially for us girls. I don’t know, maybe I’ll stick to being the damn Mistress I know I am.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
For me, I think it’s both; although I admit I want it to be more physical. I don’t want to be deeply or emotionally connected. But I think it’s better if there’s a combination of the two because the “romance” present only makes it hotter and sexier. Seeing your slave suffer and enjoy – really enjoy what’s happening – at the same time is very fulfilling.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Surprisingly, yes! There’s no resistance, though there’s a bit of acting involved. You know, like he’s trying to escape or touch me but of course, I won’t let that happen or else! I’m not really sure if he’s always a sub but I could tell that he really likes his role.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience as a femdom.
Like any other firsts, it’s awkward although we did talk about it. I brought out the handcuffs and flogger I bought and I was kind of hesitant to use it but he insisted. After a few kissing, I can’t take it any longer and I’ve just unleashed the Mistress that I really am. I undressed him, cuffed him, and started to hit him – gentle at first until it came harder and harder.
We did this almost all the time and every single moment is incredible. Actually, I’m planning to take things into a new level, adding up more toys like the chastity belt and nipple clamps. Maybe I’ll add a latex suit, too!
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
We like to make things simple so we use “red” as a safeword. After all, I don’t really want to go point wherein he feels nothing but pain anymore so we used a word that’s quite easy to remember.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
That would be my Locking Steel Slave Cuffs, and I want to have more. For me, it’s the perfect tool for every Mistress ‘cause once your slave is tied, they’re helpless. Can’t live without it.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
I really want to make out with a celebrity crush, perhaps Manny Montana or Robert Buckley! These men can make me cum just by looking at them! But I really want to have a night – or two ‘cause why not – and make them my slave. I’ll use toys I’ve never used before like a nipple clamp, a rope, and blindfold or make out with them somewhere that’s almost public, like a movie house or a car.
