Men have their own mistakes to pay for when it comes to sexual encounters. Fortunately, the good news is, such mistakes can be avoided. But certain mistakes are even hard to identify especially in the heat of the moment, when passion and lust are overwhelming to both lovers.
If you are wondering what are the common mistakes guys making during sex, here’s the top 10 list of things men should watch out for.
1. Lack of emotion
Men tend to get a bit mechanical during sex. This is not a turn on for your partners. It might be a good idea to also convey some emotions during intimate encounters. Your partner should know they are more than just an object to achieve an orgasm during sex. Make sure you let them know how you feel about them and make them comfortable in your presence before anything else.
2. Keeping silent
Total silence is not a good option during a hot sex scene. Your partner cannot read your mind and has no way to exactly determine how you feel unless you verbalize it. Even if you are not into fetishes like dirty talk or verbal humiliation, you can always let out some sexy words or sensual phrases to spice things up. Let loose your moans to show just how much you are into it.
3. Not taking control
Even though you are not in the middle of a BDSM scene, taking control can be extremely hot during your intimate moments with your lover. Be spontaneous and add new sex toys to the entire experience such as anal plugs or even electro stimulating devices! Your lover will be very excited to enjoy new experiences along with you!
4. Being shy
A shy man is not someone who will attract many lovers. Keep an open mind and don’t be afraid to express your sexual desires during your intimate moments with your lover. This will encourage them to do the same and will increase the sexual energy between the two of you.
5. Skipping foreplay
Now, unless you are planning to have a quickie, foreplay is a must! If you don’t have a lot of time, you can make it shorter but try not to skip it. During foreplay, both of you will be ready to enter an exciting sexual encounter and will turn your bodies on for it.
6. Not sharing sexual fantasies
Having sexual fantasies is great, sharing them with your partner is even greater! If you are into impact play for instance, let your lover know about your fetish before you get the flogger or paddle. This will help you develop your sexuality and also increase the level of trust between the two of you.
7. Not trying out new things
You might be pretty conservative when it comes to your sexual fetishes or fantasies but if your lover likes new experiences, you’d better try to keep an open mind. This will increase the sexual pleasure and satisfaction for both of you. It can also keep you from the temptation of having an affair, which can damage your relationship!
8. Neglecting hygienic aspects
Needless to say, men don’t have to match beauty standards with women but they still have to pay attention to their hygiene. Besides the basic shower, try to choose a manly perfume to stir her libido and drive your lover crazy.
9. Pushing your fetishes on your partner
This is the opposite of not sharing your fetishes at all. The best way to enjoy your fetishes together is to talk about it and gradually work on it. If you just push your sexual desires, you might offend or overwhelm your partner and you will not able to enjoy your naughty fantasies with your lover at all!
10. Pay attention to her entire body, not just her vagina!
Lastly, many guys make the mistake of focusing only on his lover’s sex organ. But, a woman’s nipples can be as exciting as her vagina. Keep in mind, the body has so many erogenous zones, parts you need to discover and stimulate for increased sexual gratification.
